Lately, I’ve been feeling resentful about my commute. I’m tired at the end of the day and then I have to fight through traffic for an hour and a half and dodge horrible drivers who shouldn’t even own a license and it’s been making me absolutely miserable.
About 2 times now, I’ve been feeling so out of it that I had run a red light accidentally. And just last week, I found out that a girl my age just died in a car accident near a route by my house. I can’t help but think this is just a big flashing reminder to be a more present and peaceful driver.
I’m sure a lot of people share this same experience–being stuck in traffic and having such a long commute–especially if you live at the border of a city. For some, commutes can just suck out all their energy so much that they go home just to numb themselves from the day’s struggles. A long commute and being stuck in traffic is just one of those things in life you can’t really control (unless you decide to move closer or get a new job), and it can leave you feeling absolutely powerless and hopeless. However, a situation like this can be an absolute blessing. It can serve as an opportunity to take back your power in a seemingly disempowering situation.
Driving is a wonderful way to practice more love, kindness, and empathy with others. In the past, I had never minded the drive. It was just something that was there. But I think my attitude towards living so far away from my boyfriend and everyone else has made me resent the driving. But life isn’t about the destiny, it’s about the journey, right? Honestly, whenever I hear this over used statement of wisdom it makes me want to scream. But it’s completely true. Before I had become resentful, some of those drives had been the most peaceful and delightful times of my life–observing the nature, the trees, the birds, the open skies. I want more of that again. I want to communicate with nature again. I want to be a kind driver again. Not some rushed, impatient, angry person who is always pissed at some car that drives too slow.
I want to resume practicing more mindfulness with driving. Because if you’ve got a long commute, then why not make the most of it? Why not learn to deal with traffic in a positive way? And practicing this with driving is a good way of practicing this with all those other factors in life that can’t be controlled. Because if we constantly see those things as problems, we’ll continue to see more problems in our lives. Those situations that you can’t change are meant to be used as a way for YOU to change and to grow into being your best self.
Kisses and Meows,