Do you have a wildly amazing vision for your life?
Are you eager to pursue this vision, but find there are certain mental blocks holding you back?
That was exactly me. Actually, that’s still me right now. I wake up with a rush of excitement and eagerness to move closer to my dreams, but it quickly disappears when I think of all the individual steps I need to take to actualize those dreams.
I procrastinate. I pace around my house. I snack on junk food. I criticize myself endlessly.
There is this tension that occurs when I try to sit down and do anything meaningful, anything that’s worth doing. I’m still a big believer in “following your joy” but I know that it’s not always that simple or black & white.
Sometimes what we need to do the most gives us the most pain and anxiety.
And that’s okay.
I created this daily planner for people like myself who feel the pain & resistance of doing the work that we are called to do in this life.
The path to create an amazing life and share our gifts with the world is not always sunshine and cupcakes.
A big focus of this planner is to identify your resistance traps and how to overcome them. However, I can’t tell you what your exact forms of resistance are or how to overcome them. Only you can.
Examples of resistance would be any vice, addiction, or perceived limitation. The moment you decide it’s impossible, then it is.
For example, one resistant trap that I’ve been writing down for myself is always trying to achieve perfection, which is so frustrating since this is virtually impossible. Nothing will ever be perfect. And so for me, nothing ever gets done. Or if it does, it’s never good enough in my book.
A strategy of trying to overcome this block is to instead go for “finished” or “good enough”. I wrote down on my planner that there is no point to any of this if what I’m trying to create isn’t finished and shipped out to the world. All that hard work is wasted when it’s not shared.
A huge inspiration for this planner was Steven Pressfield’s popular book, “The War of Art”. Reading this book has changed my life and the way I approach my work. I’ve converted some of the ideas into practical, no-nonsense steps. I highly recommend reading this book to gain deeper understanding of how to overcome resistance blocks.
In addition, I’ve incorporated some of my own tricks that help me get through the boring, yet necessary chores of life (mundane chores infused with joy).
Below is a link to the pdf. It contains a little note from me, an example of how to use the planner (one that I’ve written and actually used in my daily life), and a blank one for you to fill out in whatever way you want.
This planner was crafted with love and made to support your highest visions. Thank you for taking the big leap of faith with me to bring the unmanifested into the world.
Kisses & Meows,
One of my own daily planners that I’ve filled out:
Overcome Resistance Daily PDF download: UWisdom_OvercomeResistanceDaily
I recently had a run-in with the good spirit of self love.
Somewhere along the way, I had forgotten the importance of talking to myself with kindness and gentleness. I had forgotten to check-in with myself and how I was feeling.
It’s funny how when things in our lives are going a mile a minute, we tend to forget about the nurturing art of self love and self care. Things have been progressing with work and I have been seeing an increase in my performance, as well as some good introspective insights, but it’s caused me to forget about nourishing my own self. And when I start to see external positive progress about myself, I can tend to be too hard on myself, expect too much of myself, and be too critical of myself. I see external progress as a sign to keep pushing, keep going, and not stopping. I suddenly think I’m above the idea of Self Love or slowing down or taking a break.
This has caused me to dive deeper into my self love practices, because even if life is going well, we still need to learn to be kinder to ourselves. External success does not indicate internal peace, and sometimes, it produces the opposite.
Here are a few actions I’m taking to get back to listening to myself and treating myself with kindness and love:
- Check-in’s with myself during the day: Asking myself, how am I feeling? And if there is anything I can do to make things better at the moment? How can you feel more alive now?
- Noticing when I’m judging myself or being too harsh: Sometimes I’m not able to catch the words, but I’m able to feel the feeling of being judged. It’s usually this tightness of anxiety in my chest, and I start to feel guilty or that I’m going something completely wrong.
- Changing my inner dialogue: When I catch myself being too critical of myself, I can observe it non-judgmentally and let it go. This can be a challenge. However, I’ve come up with my go-to self love mantra that I repeat with feeling every time I observe the negative voices: I Love You. I Appreciate You. I Approve of You. I Respect You. I Honor You. I know you are going to do wonderful things. It’s okay, my love. It is okay. You are safe. You are safe. You are safe.
- Put it into writing: This is something I’ve start implementing. Writing down or consciously finding 3 things I appreciate about myself or the moment right now. This is a booster to help energize you and be in the space of love.
- Tending to my own physical needs more often. Drink water, use the restroom, find some stillness in a hectic day, have a healthy snack, stay on top of vitamins and supplements, moisturize your skin, take care of your hair.
- The bottom line is to know this: You are brave and wonderful. I know you don’t think that sometimes, but you truly are. It’s okay to doubt and it’s okay if there is fear. But underneath it all, know that you are more than worthy. You are enormous. You are substantial. You are powerful. Use that power to create more love in this world.
Sometimes, progress comes in the form of failure. The resistance I’m going through now is another opportunity to truly purge negative talk and habits within me that haven’t been able to come out just yet. This is another “cleansing” period. This is indeed a period of rich progress and fulfillment. Be aware of this resistance, and thank this resistance. Thank it for bringing you back to your self love practices. Because self love and self care is so important, we can’t forget about it! Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Kisses & Meows,
Because it’s the easiest, most thoughtless way to feeling good and relieving tension and stress.
It’s automatic. I don’t have to challenge my brain or try too hard, and the lure of it is that it works instantly.
Eating can be just a mindless activity. You can just sit there and watch TV while eating a bag of chips with no conscious thought of what you’re putting in your body. There is no regard to what you’re consuming—you’re just consuming. And it’s easy. Just like how easy it is to buy into whatever the news and media tells you. You end up just being a victim or a sucker who didn’t know any better.
Do YOU want to be a sucker?
I know I don’t.
One of the reasons why I’m so obsessed with personal development is because I don’t want to be a sucker and I want to get the most out of my life and have amazing experiences.
And if I’ve learned anything so far in my self growth journey, I know that I can change mindless patterns and bad habits by continuing to remind myself of what drives me.
Why do I wake up in the morning to go to work or do what I do? Why do I constantly want to grow? What is the vision I’m trying to achieve?
When I answer these questions for myself, I am able to access joy and relief instantaneously. Suddenly, stress will wear off and I’ll feel more relaxed and recharged. My energy starts to build up again as I focus on my big life motivations. And naturally, food becomes less of a crutch.
When you’re feeling burnt out, remembering your “Why’s” is a better, more high quality way to experience joy and relief quickly and easily. You don’t need anything else to help you remember them. No food, no money, no netflix, no people. All you need to do is take a moment to pause and reflect.
Always remember….staying in touch with your “Why” is better than a slice of pie!
Kisses & Meows,