“Everything Is Honored But Nothing Matters” {Eckhart Tolle}

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I love this quote.

This quote allows me to relax and let go.

Of everything that I try to strive for. Of everything that I try to create.

Sometimes, I look at all the personal growth books that I’ve been reading, all of the podcasts I listen to to improve myself, all of the goals I set out to complete and feel that there is something missing. It’s this little itch of a feeling suggesting that all that of this trying and doing and pushing won’t help me feel any better about myself.

I love this quote because I deeply believe in its meaning and what its trying to say.

The essence of everything is already whole and complete.

All that I do to try and make make myself feel better–whether its get ahead in my career, make good money, or start up my own business–really doesn’t make a difference. Because the joy that I am striving to feel is already available to me, right now.

It doesn’t matter if I decide to move across the country.

It doesn’t matter if I decide to quit my job tomorrow.

It doesn’t matter if I people give me praise or criticism.

Just like how a woman dressed in fancy clothes doesn’t mean she’s rich.

Or like how a woman dressed in rugged jeans and a sweatshirt doesn’t mean she’s not a millionaire.

The essence of the person is not affected by the clothes. And the essence of myself is not affected by my life’s circumstances. Whether or not I have a job at a big company or work for myself. Whether or not I travel the world or stay in one place. The essence of who I am does not change.

And sometimes, I get so caught up in arranging my life circumstances a particular way that I miss the point of actually living. I miss the joy that is in this present moment.

Being able to enjoy your own essence of who you are feels joyful. It feels amazing. It feels light and happy. There is no stress, no strain, no striving. Everything just is. And all is well. You just let go and you let yourself be cared for by the Universe. I know, easier said then done. But its never too late to start unwinding yourself and practicing being in your own presence.

Kisses & Meows,

G

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Introducing: OVERCOME RESISTANCE DAILY PLANNER (free pdf)

Hello there!

Do you have a wildly amazing vision for your life?

Are you eager to pursue this vision, but find there are certain mental blocks holding you back?

That was exactly me. Actually, that’s still me right now. I wake up with a rush of excitement and eagerness to move closer to my dreams, but it quickly disappears when I think of all the individual steps I need to take to actualize those dreams.

I procrastinate. I pace around my house. I snack on junk food. I criticize myself endlessly.

There is this tension that occurs when I try to sit down and do anything meaningful, anything that’s worth doing. I’m still a big believer in “following your joy” but I know that it’s not always that simple or black & white.

Sometimes what we need to do the most gives us the most pain and anxiety.

And that’s okay.

I created this daily planner for people like myself who feel the pain & resistance of doing the work that we are called to do in this life.

The path to create an amazing life and share our gifts with the world is not always sunshine and cupcakes.

A big focus of this planner is to identify your resistance traps and how to overcome them. However, I can’t tell you what your exact forms of resistance are or how to overcome them. Only you can.

Examples of resistance would be any vice, addiction, or perceived limitation. The moment you decide it’s impossible, then it is.

For example, one resistant trap that I’ve been writing down for myself is always trying to achieve perfection, which is so frustrating since this is virtually impossible. Nothing will ever be perfect. And so for me, nothing ever gets done. Or if it does, it’s never good enough in my book.

A strategy of trying to overcome this block is to instead go for “finished” or “good enough”. I wrote down on my planner that there is no point to any of this if what I’m trying to create isn’t finished and shipped out to the world. All that hard work is wasted when it’s not shared.

A huge inspiration for this planner was Steven Pressfield’s popular book, “The War of Art”. Reading this book has changed my life and the way I approach my work. I’ve converted some of the ideas into practical, no-nonsense steps. I highly recommend reading this book to gain deeper understanding of how to overcome resistance blocks.

In addition, I’ve incorporated some of my own tricks that help me get through the boring, yet necessary chores of life (mundane chores infused with joy).

Below is a link to the pdf. It contains a little note from me, an example of how to use the planner (one that I’ve written and actually used in my daily life), and a blank one for you to fill out in whatever way you want.

This planner was crafted with love and made to support your highest visions. Thank you for taking the big leap of faith with me to bring the unmanifested into the world.

Kisses & Meows,

G

One of my own daily planners that I’ve filled out:

Resistance Daily Sample

Overcome Resistance Daily PDF download: UWisdom_OvercomeResistanceDaily

 

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Daring To Be Authentic

How do I want to live my life? Boldly.
Doing things true to you will often put others off.
And you have to be willing to let people go as you become more and more clear about who you are and what you want to stand for in this life.
Standing for the truth is never easy. It’s often the most difficult option, but the most rewarding in the long term. It’s the raw truth that actually impacts on the world on a greater level, not some watered down version of the truth.
Standing for your truth means standing out. I’m learning more and more to be comfortable with standing out, in whatever way I may appear. Whether that’s stand out in a weird way, stand out in a way that makes heads turn, stand out in a way that inspires people to take action towards something. To embrace being different, even if it may not be beautiful or attractive in the traditional sense. To embrace having attention on you. Which is scary. Because the more eyes on you, the more criticism you’ll receive. The more vulnerable and naked you are. But as you continue to expose your true self, you gain access to higher clarity and liberation.
Kisses & Meows,
G

On Favoring Ideologies over Real People

We can see easily see how strong ideologies can tear people apart and cause nothing but destruction.
Want an example? Just turn on the news.
There is a difference between standing up for what you believe in, and destroying all those who don’t agree with your beliefs. One is loving. So loving. And the other is fear that breeds more fear.
Recently, something in my life has happened that has allowed me to understand this concept more deeply.
Let’s start with this. I was born and raised as a Catholic in a very Catholic family. I went to Catholic school from kindergarten until 8th grade and have been to mass every Sunday for most of my life.
When I was a teenager, my rebellious brother showed me the documentary Religulous and soon after it wasn’t hard for me to drop Catholicism. I quickly went from a girl who prayed every night to the big man in the sky, to someone who was quite indifferent about it all. Maybe it was to be cool. Maybe it was to be like my brother. I don’t know, but it just wasn’t something I wanted to participate in anymore.
So, fast forward to a little under a decade later. I had gone through some real dark times and somehow made it out after discovering a new definition of God. I saw God in every face, every plant, every laugh, every particle of dust in the air. And it was with this liberated way of practicing my spirituality, I found something that is here to stay with me for the rest of my life. However, still living with my parents, I had to still go through the motions of going to mass or pretending like I went to mass, when really, I would go to Starbucks and read Buddhist or Spiritual self development books. That was my version of going to mass. That was my version on being with God.
Very recently, I found that I had had enough. I was feeling guilty because I kept lying to my parents about going to church. I knew if I told them the truth, it would hurt them, particularly my mom, who was raised in a severely Catholic household. So one day, I woke up on a Sunday and went downstairs for my coffee. My mom sat there sorting through some mail, and asked me what time I would prefer to go to church.
“Nah, I don’t think I’m going to go.” I said it so casually, almost being foolish with my tone. I thought that if I phrased it in that way, it wouldn’t seemed like a big deal. But boy, I was wrong.
My mom’s mood quickly changed, I swear it was like I saw a sudden flash of lightening fill the room. I knew I had just figuratively stepped into a horrific pile a elephant poo that would leave a foul smell on my shoes for days.
“What do you mean you don’t want to go to church?!”
“I just don’t. It’s boring and Catholicism doesn’t resonate with me anymore.”
“WHAT DO YOU MEAN?! YOU’VE BEEN A CATHOLIC ALL YOUR LIFE!”
“Well, I don’t want to be one anymore.”
“Aren’t you scared of what God will do to you if you don’t go to church?!”
(I suppress a laugh.)
“So that’s it? You just won’t pray anymore or go to church?! After going to Catholic school?! What about your soul?! You need to do something for your soul! This world is already as horrible as it is!”
She continued to rant on and on, and I was honestly astonished to hear all of the fear she’s tied into her own religious beliefs. Most of the things she was saying sounded like threats or impending doom. Like, if I didn’t go to church, a thunder bolt would come out of the sky and hit me. And I’ll go to hell. Like, if I didn’t go to church, how would I earn brownie points with God? How could I enter into heaven? The assumptions that I was fundamentally flawed and evil and that I needed go to church and pray to be on the good side of God just shocked me. I’ve been ignoring Catholicism so much that I had never even realized what it was really teaching. And maybe this isn’t all what Catholicism is about, but this was the version of Catholicism my mom believed. And it honestly made me sad to see that she felt so much fear.
“I’m not doing this to hurt you, mom.” I said to her, once she stopped talking.
“Yes! Yes you are doing this to hurt me!” And she slammed the door shut and left.
That stung. It really felt like she ripped a hole in my chest. Shortly after, however, I oddly felt calm. Usually, something like this would shake me up pretty bad, but it revealed to me how afraid she was. As we all are. Instead of clinging to mantras, meditation, and tarot cards like the rest of us, she was clinging onto the act of going to church and doing penance. She thought that by not having her daughter go to church, she was basically letting me go to hell. And as a mother, she couldn’t have that. So that I understand. But to what extent do you fight for those beliefs? And if it is being done out of love, then why do I feel so condemned and rejected by her?
After this incident, she didn’t talk to me for a few days. I tried to just act normal and talk to her as if nothing had happened. I didn’t want this to hurt our relationship. But at the same time, I was willing to stand my ground as firmly as I could.
And this got me thinking. Was she really willing to distance herself from me, her own daughter, because I didn’t believe in the same things she believed in? Were her beliefs really worth damaging this relationship? Was this really worth shutting me out?
I’m a person. A real human being. With thoughts, feelings, and her perspective on life. And it fucking hurts to be put aside like this just because of differing beliefs.
People who favor ideologies over people destroy towns. They burn their bridges. The set fire to anything and anyone who doesn’t agree with them. They live in black and white. They forget that these people are real people. Not some tool to advance their own beliefs. Not somebody to yell over while they’re speaking to tell them they’re wrong.
I’m not saying that my mother will destroy towns or set fire to anything. I’m simply using this as an example to depict what lengths people will go to prove that they’re right.
That being said, I’m not going to continue to practice something I don’t believe in. Even though it would make my life so much easier if I could just keep lying to her saying that I go to church like a good Catholic woman, I won’t. I can’t. Because it’s not my truth and it’s not something that feels right for me anymore. I’m so unwilling to keep lying to the point where I’m willing to face the wrath of Mom and all the things she’ll say to me about how bad of a person I am—so I can stand for the truth I believe in. And I resist, I resist, yelling back and telling her about how Catholicism is bullshit. Even though I really fucking want to. Because if I yell back or if I tell her how much I am right, and how much she is wrong, then I am no different. Standing up for what you believe in can be done peacefully. In fact, standing up for what you believe in is peace. MLK, Gandhi, the Dalai Lama. You know them. You’ve heard what they’ve done. You know it’s more than possible.
My situation isn’t unique or special. And it’s obviously not as worse as it could have been. People everywhere around the world are going through this–I don’t even have to say it. But this personal situation has revealed something of immense value for me to pay attention to. It’s helped me relate to the world differently and taught me to understand what standing up for what you believe in looks like in my life. And as I continue to gain clarity as to what is right and authentic for me, this I know is invaluable.
Kisses & Meows,
G

How To Be Positive When Things Around You Are Falling Apart

Sure, it’s easy to be positive when the sun is shining, when money is flowing in nicely, and when your hair decides to cooperate in the morning. Sure it’s easy to feel the positivity when people compliment you, when the tell you how much you’ve impacted them, or when you earn awards and recognition.
But if you’re like me, when the clouds start to come in, and the grayness sets in—when you receive harsh criticism from others, or when something absolutely tragic happens that flips your world upside down—the ability to stay positive ceases and it seems like you’ve been fucked over by life.
There are 2 types of positivity that are discussed out there. The first one is the most familiar to all of us. This is what most people think of when they hear, “Just be positive about it!”.  It’s represented by the cheerleader, the sun, and that bubbly person who is always so upbeat at work. This version of positivity plasters anything sad or depressing with one of those yellow smiley faces. “Don’t be so mad that you got a parking ticket. Cheer up! Everything is wonderful!” Don’t you just want to punch people who do that? I know I do! The problem with this type of positivity is that it thinks is can brush over and ignore anything that is not “happy”. And if one day you come into work not as chipper or or in a dampened mood because your dog may be put down, this type of positivity doesn’t allow you to grief. It doesn’t allow you to be human. And it blames you for every moment you may dwell in pain, fear, or negativity.
The second type, is called deep positivity. It’s represented by the Hermit of the Major Arcana in Tarot and the stars in the night sky. It is represented by that friend who sits with you when you’re crying and doesn’t say a word, and who is there for you empathetically and is willing to go through the storms with you. This version of positivity is like a dark shade of purple. It’s magnificent and beautiful, yet it encapsulates the essence of the dark times we all go through as human beings. Deep positivity says: “I know this hurts. And it will hurt for a little while. And it may take awhile for you to get to the other side of this, but know that this is making you stronger. And you will be okay.” It acknowledges the clear challenges we all face and the deep emotions we can feel when going through our life’s journey. It doesn’t gloss over it. It lets you feel, so you can release. And making you into a person who is able to rise above and transcend these tragedies into your own greatness.
Kisses & Meows,
G

Feel Reinvigorated with Self Love

I recently had a run-in with the good spirit of self love.

Somewhere along the way, I had forgotten the importance of talking to myself with kindness and gentleness. I had forgotten to check-in with myself and how I was feeling.

It’s funny how when things in our lives are going a mile a minute, we tend to forget about the nurturing art of self love and self care. Things have been progressing with work and I have been seeing an increase in my performance, as well as some good introspective insights, but it’s caused me to forget about nourishing my own self. And when I start to see external positive progress about myself, I can tend to be too hard on myself, expect too much of myself, and be too critical of myself. I see external progress as a sign to keep pushing, keep going, and not stopping. I suddenly think I’m above the idea of Self Love or slowing down or taking a break.

This has caused me to dive deeper into my self love practices, because even if life is going well, we still need to learn to be kinder to ourselves. External success does not indicate internal peace, and sometimes, it produces the opposite.

Here are a few actions I’m taking to get back to listening to myself and treating myself with kindness and love:

  • Check-in’s with myself during the day: Asking myself, how am I feeling? And if there is anything I can do to make things better at the moment? How can you feel more alive now?
  • Noticing when I’m judging myself or being too harsh: Sometimes I’m not able to catch the words, but I’m able to feel the feeling of being judged. It’s usually this tightness of anxiety in my chest, and I start to feel guilty or that I’m going something completely wrong.
  • Changing my inner dialogue: When I catch myself being too critical of myself, I can observe it non-judgmentally and let it go. This can be a challenge. However, I’ve come up with my go-to self love mantra that I repeat with feeling every time I observe the negative voices: I Love You. I Appreciate You. I Approve of You. I Respect You. I Honor You. I know you are going to do wonderful things. It’s okay, my love. It is okay. You are safe. You are safe. You are safe.
  • Put it into writing: This is something I’ve start implementing. Writing down or consciously finding 3 things I appreciate about myself or the moment right now. This is a booster to help energize you and be in the space of love.
  • Tending to my own physical needs more often. Drink water, use the restroom, find some stillness in a hectic day, have a healthy snack, stay on top of vitamins and supplements, moisturize your skin, take care of your hair.
  • The bottom line is to know this: You are brave and wonderful. I know you don’t think that sometimes, but you truly are. It’s okay to doubt and it’s okay if there is fear. But underneath it all, know that you are more than worthy. You are enormous. You are substantial. You are powerful. Use that power to create more love in this world.

Sometimes, progress comes in the form of failure. The resistance I’m going through now is another opportunity to truly purge negative talk and habits within me that haven’t been able to come out just yet. This is another “cleansing” period. This is indeed a period of rich progress and fulfillment. Be aware of this resistance, and thank this resistance. Thank it for bringing you back to your self love practices. Because self love and self care is so important, we can’t forget about it! Thank you, thank you, thank you.

 

Kisses & Meows,

G

Why I Eat For Pleasure

Because it’s the easiest, most thoughtless way to feeling good and relieving tension and stress.

It’s automatic. I don’t have to challenge my brain or try too hard, and the lure of it is that it works instantly.

Eating can be just a mindless activity. You can just sit there and watch TV while eating a bag of chips with no conscious thought of what you’re putting in your body. There is no regard to what you’re consuming—you’re just consuming. And it’s easy. Just like how easy it is to buy into whatever the news and media tells you. You end up just being a victim or a sucker who didn’t know any better.

Do YOU want to be a sucker?

I know I don’t.

One of the reasons why I’m so obsessed with personal development is because I don’t want to be a sucker and I want to get the most out of my life and have amazing experiences.

And if I’ve learned anything so far in my self growth journey, I know that I can change mindless patterns and bad habits by continuing to remind myself of what drives me.

Why do I wake up in the morning to go to work or do what I do? Why do I constantly want to grow? What is the vision I’m trying to achieve?

When I answer these questions for myself, I am able to access joy and relief instantaneously. Suddenly, stress will wear off and I’ll feel more relaxed and recharged. My energy starts to build up again as I focus on my big life motivations. And naturally, food becomes less of a crutch.

When you’re feeling burnt out, remembering  your “Why’s” is a better, more high quality way to experience joy and relief quickly and easily. You don’t need anything else to help you remember them. No food, no money, no netflix, no people. All you need to do is take a moment to pause and reflect.

Always remember….staying in touch with your “Why” is better than a slice of pie!

hahaha.

Kisses & Meows,

G

 

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